“Venters” are bulls who charge through the china shop Venting isn’t talking. “We’ve got to talk!” can be the opening salutation of a useless discussion that carries repercussions. Venting is letting off steam or debating to win points instead of discussing. At its worst, venting is shredding the self-esteem of another with the purpose to […]
Inspirational sayings to keep you growing, changing and aware I’m frequently asked why I write when I don’t have to. I write to make my life better, by practicing change management, anger education and communication skills that work to make my life come alive. Talk is cheap. I prefer action to sass, and I figure […]
A negatalker is addicted to negative chatter that zaps teamwork. Are you a legend in your own mind? Perhaps you’ve been zapped and your energy has been sapped by this zinger: “You’re not listening. Why do you always have to be SO negative?” When someone says that to you, the attempt is to make you […]
Do you ever play the “What IF…” game with a friend, family member or even alone with yourself inside your own skull? I bet you do. You think about what would have happened, what would be different, what would have changed…if only. Why do people play “What IF…?” PUTTING YOUR MIND OVER YOUR MOOD They […]
In a landmark 2005 New Insights Communication study, I tested and interviewed 160 individuals from all walks of life to determine their communicator style. I found that 40% of all communicators are Empathizers (E-types), while 60% of all communicators are Instigators (I-types). You can find out your communicator type easily by “Taking the Test” on […]