Your communicator type determines your comfort level with positive or negative feedback and comments. How comfortable are you with giving and receiving positive or negative feedback? Do you like or loathe positive vs. negative feedback? You shouldn’t have to stuff your feelings inside for fear that you might offend the opposite sex, or anyone. But that’s exactly what many “warm and caring normal and nice people” do nowadays. They speak their positive thoughts about you and me privately to themselves.
YOUR COMMUNICATOR TYPE…AND GIVING VS. ACCEPTING COMPLIMENTS
There is a distinction between your communicator type and your comfort level giving and receiving compliments, too. Some fun core communicator differences:
Empathizer (E-types) communicators more often give positive compliments than their Instigator (I-types) communicator counterparts
I-types accept positive words spoken about them more easily and with less embarrassment
E-types more quickly forget positive words spoken to them
I-types speak positive sentiments quietly to themselves when/if they are feeling down
E-types are better self-criticizers
I-types are better ego-busters
E-types are better ego-boosters
E-types take negatives more personally than positives
I-types take negatives more impersonally than positives
Both E- and I-types don’t want to feel lonely and prefer feeling appreciated and loved
THE ART OF GIVING CONSTRUCTIVE POSITIVE AND NEGATIVE FEEDBACK
Overall (in my experience), Empathizer-type communicators are more comfortable giving positives (when positives are deserved), and Instigator-type communicators are more confident feeling they deserve positives from others. Both E-types and I-types struggle with the art of giving constructive negative feedback.
Dr. Dennis O’Grady likes to think of himself as the AAA tow-truck driver, the guy who arrives on the scene just in time to help everyone on the Communications Highway make the necessary repairs – sometimes small, sometimes huge – that get everyone going again. He’s author of “Talk to Me: Communication Moves to Get Along With Anyone.” His company, New Insights Communication, is located in the cradle of inventiveness…Dayton, Ohio, USA. O’Grady’s book is now available at www.Amazon.com.