We all need to receive some positive attention now and then, in the workplace or home space, or we will act outrageously to receive negative attention by being a NegaTalker. After all, any attention is better than no attention at all! And like plants, we need to be watered on occasion in all of our relationships for maximum personal growth and confidence to occur. Moreover, Empathizer communicators like to give away attention while Instigator communicators like to earn attention.
DO YOU PLEDGE TO LET OTHERS KNOW IN LITTLE WAYS HOW IMPORTANT THEY ARE TO YOU EACH DAY?
These are “pledges of attention” from which any relationship can benefit. Would you agree that making a partner or child feel worthy of your attention is important?
WILL YOU BE GOOD TO ME?
Will you let me know in little ways how important I am to you each day?
Will you see me through fresh new eyes each morning?
Will you hear me through non-judgmental ears?
Will you give me a hug when I feel overwhelmed without my asking?
Will you still like or love me when I disagree respectfully with you?
Will you still remember that I’m a good man or good woman when you’re mad at me?
Will you accept my disappointments without becoming defensive?
Will you accept my vulnerability and not attack or lambaste me?
Will you confront me when I shred your self-esteem?
Will you remind me how I’m good enough when I doubt myself?
Will you make regular deposits in our bank account of love?
Will you forgive me for being far less than I can be?
Will you be good to me?
And love me even when I don’t show up to love myself?
Will you pledge now to pay attention to everyone you come into contact with, not because you have to, but because you want to keep their day going in a good way?
“Will You Be Good To Me” is an excerpted poem by Dr. Dennis O’Grady that appears on pages 259-260 of Dennis’ new book “Talk to Me: Communication Moves to Get Along with Anyone.” When you read the book or attend a “TALK TO ME workshop,” you will know what you’re talking about when it comes to using the four communicator modes to talk positively and communicate more effectively with everyone…including the “difficult people” in your life.