May Blessings of Better Communication Abound
Let’s all acquire what we admire, by adopting the inner strengths of our opposite communicator type. If you’re an Instigator-type communicator, you will benefit from sensitivity training. If you’re an Empathizer-type communicator, you will benefit from insensitivity training.
INSTIGATOR COMMUNICATORS ARE LESS SENSITIVE
Here are some presents I wish for Instigator communicators, who are not afraid to take charge and lead us all out of emotional swamps…
- Enjoy being a willing passenger instead of a hard driver
- Make decisions with your heart
- Listen for what you don’t expect to hear
- Look…and look again…before you leap
- Take a cautious step back to look ahead at predicted obstacles
- Be cool: Maintain a courteous and professional attitude in every situation
- Anticipate and respond to changes in others moods
- Know you have the negative, AND the positive, relationship climate control at your fingertips
- Leave your bad mood at the door when you come home
- Become an expert listener and LISTEN UP
- Demonstrate flexibility, sensitivity, compassion, and interest by not always knowing
- Be a better follower to enhance your leadership skills
- Waste a little time in idle chit-chat with people who help you attain your goals
- Dwell on the present of the present
- Make an unexpected phone call to someone you know who admires you
- Concede that emotions are strengths
EMPATHIZER COMMUNICATORS ARE MORE SENSITIVE
Here are some presents I wish for Empathizer communicators, whose ideas light the way ahead during the darkest of times…
- Be less sensitive and not so afraid of hurting others’ feelings
- Flush mental crap
- Refuse to take on the bad mood of a bad news bear
- When you are uncertain, project strength and confidence
- Push back when you’re feeling pushed around
- Speak up, take the bull by the horns, talk no bull, speak louder to be heard
- Use assertive action solutions to problems when you feel bad
- Kick the self-doubt habit
- Know your “daring to care” attitude is admired by all, if shared only by a few
- A faithful and loyal friend who reflects the faithfulness and loyalty seen in you
- Care less about what others think, believe, or resolve
- Accept that you have Million Dollar Ideas that will help us all, so SPEAK OUT
- Be not afraid of conflict!
- Be a risk taker; jump right in instead of testing the waters
- Be willing to put the pressure on someone other than yourself
- R-E-S-P-E-C-T yourself!
- Speak assertively of the creative solutions you see to pesky problems
- I respect and admire you, my dear I- and E-types!
A TWO-WAY COMMUNICATOR HIGHWAY
May Blessings of Better Communication Abound!
ABOUT “TALK DOC” DENNIS O’GRADY, Psy.D.
Dr. Dennis O’Grady is a Communication Expert and Developer of the TALK2ME Communication Roadmap. You, too, can profit from better communication! Talk with Dennis at 937-428-0724.
The TALK2ME Communication Roadmap has worked for me as an Instigator communicator. Here’s the feedback I’ve been receiving from others…
YOU NO LONGER USE WORDS AS SWORDS
You have changed so much.
You have grown so tolerant.
You no longer use words as swords.
Your relationship with your immediate family and others has improved so much.
You’re much better at talking openly instead of being judgmental.
You’re not bothered as much by events beyond my control.
Adopting the strengths of my opposite communicator type, really works, Dr. O’Grady. Thanks.
Comment by Dr. Dennis O'Grady — December 15, 2008 @ 12:38 pm