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NEGATALKERS BREAK GOOD COMMUNICATION DRIVING RULES

Do you know someone who thinks they’re the greatest thing ever since sliced bread? Or do you work with anyone who is a legend in his/her own mind? Then give up a big grin because you’re not alone in this crazy talk world. In fact, almost every day I hear negative people running off at the mouth and breaking good communication driving rules. Pretty words are empty without the plentitude of positive actions!

STIRRING THINGS UP FOR KICKS

The bad talker huffs and puffs, spouts off and pontificates, lectures you as if you’re a know-nothing, and stirs the pot of relationship displeasure. If you react and lip off or talk dumb and loud by reacting defensively, you lose your common sense and forget that your greatest wealth is being true to yourself. Why do you have to stay calm in tight talk traffic, when horns are honking, and other drivers on the Communication Highway are acting nuts? Well, you don’t. But if you dare to care…you can look past impressive appearances and become a guiding light to others.

PRETTY WORDS ARE EMPTY WITHOUT THE PLENTITUDE OF POSITIVE ACTIONS

Talk is cheap, if you let it be. Contrastingly, talk is priceless and of a benefit to everyone, when talk rules are followed. Clear communicators use these talk rules when emotions run hot, while others drive fast — and faster — in foggy driving conditions:

  • Do slow down when your emotions are hot.
  • Do listen more than you pontificate or lecture.
  • Do be aware of your self and your surroundings at all times.
  • Do respond to others instead of using “knee-jerk-me-jerk” reactions.
  • Do be nurturing to yourself and others when stressed out.
  • Do use your character values as your compass.
  • Do be a good friend to others when you are prone to trying too hard to save face by being right.
  • Do expect yourself to grow and change on a daily basis.
  • Do hear negative feedback that resolves pesky problems which haunt you.
  • Do follow good communication driving rules, even when you don’t want to.

DO YOU SPEED UP WHEN YOU SHOULD SLOW DOWN BECAUSE YOU’RE TALKING TOO FAST, TOO LOUD, OR TOO PROUD?

Is it hard work for someone just to talk with you? Instigator communicators don’t realize how intimidating they can be. Empathizer communicators don’t realize how insightful they can be. Which are you, and why does it matter?

READY TO TAKE YOUR TURN AT TALKING POSITIVELY FOR A CHANGE?

Cause and effect: You are drained by a Negatalker — someone who confidently spouts off about negative beliefs, as if they’re incontrovertible facts. They’re not…they’re just negative opinions based on whatever it takes to rile things up. You’re job is to stay calm on the fast-moving, impossibly difficult, impressively magnificent, two-way communicator highway. Ready to take your turn at talking positively for a change?

WHO IS DENNIS O’GRADY, PSY.D.?

Dr. Dennis O’Grady is the developer of a powerful Talk to Me© communication system, that isn’t gender-driven, and which has been proven to increase positive communication, energy, mood, business performance, and personal life success. Those who use the system report that they enjoy their ride through life as never before. Don’t believe it? That’s because you’re investing in energy-draining communication strategies that keep you stuck, spinning the tires of your communicator car until smoke is surrounding you. Would you like to take a little pressure off yourself today, improving your performance and your mood? Then take the Talk to Me communication system for a test drive, which is results-driven and personally proven. Don’t know about your communicator type? Yikes…you are not licensed to drive on the talk highway! Empathizers are too sensitive to others and less sensitive to the inner self. Instigators are too insensitive to others and more sensitive to the inner self. Take the NICI (New Insights Communication Inventory) at www.drogrady.com to determine what strategies you need to invest in. Read the “let’s all talk” textbook that will change your communication viewpoint forever, “Talk to Me: Communication Moves To Get Along With Anyone” available at this site and on Amazon.

1 Comment »

  1. HOW DO I TAP ON MY BRAKES WHEN I’M MOVING TOO FAST?

    DO TALK:

    • Do tap on your brakes when your emotions are running hot.

    • Do release yourself from the prison of perfectionism.

    • Do listen more than you pontificate or lecture.

    • Do hear negative feedback that resolves pesky problems which haunt you.

    • Do escort the elephant in the room outside your front door.

    • Do respond authentically to others instead of using “knee-jerk-me-jerk” reactions.

    • Do pull out the tree from your own eye before you point out the toothpick in the other guy’s eye.

    • Do nurture yourself and reach out to others to “depressurize” when you’re stressed out.

    • Do use your character values (honesty, integrity, respect) as your compass when speeding along, lost in a fog of emotion.

    • Do take the cotton out of your ears, especially if you are prone to trying too hard to be right, just to save face.

    • Do make every effort to change and grow on a daily basis.

    • Do have the first action, instead of having the last word.

    • Do be a validator, instead of a villain.

    • Do remember that God gave us one mouth and two ears for a very good reason!

    • Do follow good communication driving rules, especially when you don’t want to.

    • Do slow down when your emotions are hot.

    Dennis E. O’Grady, Psy.D.
    http://www.drogrady.com
    (937) 428-0724

    Comment by Dr. Dennis O'Grady — February 26, 2008 @ 8:07 am

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