12 Self-Esteem Rights
Personal success derives from the momentum of boosting your confidence when you feel bummed out. Rest on your laurels for awhile to celebrate your victories and ease your defeats, but then get right back up and keep on changing to enjoy the sweet taste of victory again.
12 Self-Esteem Rights to Keep You Pumped Up
Create the kind of life you want! You can quickly translate depressive thoughts and anxious feelings into confidence by using these practical actions that are guaranteed to boost m/your confidence and juice y/our positive attitude:
1. To nurture my strengths and unique talents.
2. To reinforce myself for small positive changes.
3. To love myself even when others react in disapproving ways.
4. To make new choices which are good for me.
5. To improve my self-worth by setting goals.
6. To use gold advice to grow.
7. To live my own life free of resentment.
8. To change myself even when everything is going well.
9. To start pleasing myself more.
10. To take positive action in spite of fears that make me feel undesirable.
11. To use all of my feelings constructively including anger.
12. To have my changes noticed and stroked by loved ones.
Low self-esteem is a powerful state of the anxious mind. It can influence your mood, shyness or outgoingness, how you shake hands or speak up, public speaking anxiety…even how willing you are to reach out and take healthy risks in your personal or business life.
Low self-esteem is corrected by challenging the negative belief that you are a victim who can’t do anything productive or right to change your life. Now you know that your life IS in your control, when you use any one of the “12 Self-Esteem Rights” listed above right now.
When I’m frustrated…I pick one of the 12 Self-Esteem Rights to focus on as I travel through my day to slay low or manic self-esteem moods. IT works like a charm!
Dr. Dennis O’Grady is a clinical psychologist and communications coach from Dayton, Ohio, USA. His new communication theory of Empathizer (E-type) vs. Instigator (I-type) communicators is featured in his newly released book TALK TO ME. In Dr. O’Grady’s clinical studies, Empathizer communicators tend to struggle with low self-esteem (LSE), while Instigator communicators struggle with excessive self-esteem (ESE).
A “bad mood” is controllable to some extent…if you want to. In my clinical work, little things can net huge rewards to “take the fear out of feeling good” and confident. By using the “12 Self-Esteem Rights,” you will boost your confidence and enjoy your life more. There’s just one slight catch…you have to USE or demonstrate the rights as you go through your day–even when you don’t feel like IT.
Comment by Coach Dennis — June 30, 2006 @ 12:01 pm
So many times in my life I have wondered, “Do I have VICTIM written in huge neon lights across my forhead?!” I feel everyone knows that I’m a sucker and easy to take advantage of. I am certain that everyone is out to get me. I can never seem to say “NO”…which leaves that neon VICTIM sign on my forehead most of the time. I don’t believe someone can feel like a victom most of the time, yet, have basically good self-esteem. It seems like a tremendous conflict! Let’s try to remove this sign! -Victim
Comment by Neon Victim Sign — July 3, 2006 @ 5:39 am
Dear Neon: If you have a neon sign on your forehead…I think the sign would read VICTOR (not victim). However, in “the drama triangle” theory of Transactional Analysis, three co-dependency relationship roles are played out called the VICTIM, the RESCUER and the PERSECUTOR. Are you a sucker? Nope…in my opinion, you “DARE TO CARE!” I did a play on the word “sucker,” when I wrote about the word “stupid.” Both imply being a caring person…one who DARES TO CARE. Talk to you soon…and thanks for writing to me.
Comment by Dr. Dennis O'Grady — July 4, 2006 @ 1:27 pm