Comments on: Women Who Are Mad At Men Who Don’t Commit

By: George

George — Wed, 27 Sep 2006 19:18:26 +0000

I’m twenty-four and example of a guy who has bad experiences with women because I’m too nice. I’m an introvert and women walk all over me. Sometimes I feel like I don’t matter or that I’m invisible. You’ve got to me because I can “terrorize myself with negative self-talk.” Women can’t get away from me fast enough.

I’m ordering your book because I don’t want to be a pessimist any longer. Bad stuff sticks, reverberates and echoes in my mind all the time. If you compliment me…I don’t believe it. Everybody hates me because I can be down all the time. You’ve said my energy and mood will pick up by talking in positive ways to myself. I’m willing to give it a try. I hope this will help me overcome the shyness I have, too.

Thanks for listening and helping.

By: Mark

Mark — Wed, 27 Sep 2006 16:02:59 +0000

I’m an example of a guy who doesn’t want to commit after being hit with a divorce I didn’t expect. I didn’t date for a year. Then I began dating, and because I enjoyed my independence and thought blending families would be weird and difficult, I had doubts about making another serious commitment.

I am lugging around old relationship baggage. I still VERY mad at my ex-wife. I’ve begun reading your book to stop putting my life on hold and get past the past. I would like to enjoy a relationship again. However, my only commitment is to start enjoying my life again TODAY. I am an Empathizer-type guy who was married to an Instigator-type woman. I’ve got to let these relationship resentments go instead of lugging them around forever.

Thanks for helping me let go of the past and move forward so I enjoy life again…and trust that love doesn’t hurt.

By: Sara

Sara — Wed, 27 Sep 2006 15:25:18 +0000

This is a great blog. So often, I have heard my lady friends relate a relationship as a car restorer would about a ‘68 T-bird. Its like he’s a project that needs fixed, restored, improved. And the worst thing is that it is so pervasive among the womenfolk! They (women) do not expect to encounter a man who is ‘as-is’ and suitable. And the worst part is that some women hold onto these ‘projects’ because of all the ‘work’ they have put in. They don’t want someone else to ‘profit’ off all their ‘hard work’. Hmmm…?!@%* To all those men who read this: you wearing your flaws like a badge of honor could be more of a detriment then you realize. Women are competitive just like men, but in a different way.

By: Dr. Dennis O'Grady

Dr. Dennis O'Grady — Wed, 27 Sep 2006 10:43:11 +0000

Why allow yourself to be led around like a goat on a rope? Matching with your communicator type is no big deal when you can identify the two talk types as you talk to people you relate to throughout the day.

The whole shootin’ match of a positive relationship worth having hinges on TRUSTWORTHINESS—the man does not lay blame on any person for the state of his life AT ALL. As a professional psychologist and man, in my opinion a man is worth committing to and/or seeking a commitment from IF: A GOOD GUY DOESN’T BLAME ANYONE FOR HIS WOES…AND EMBRACES CHANGE!