SUPERSTAR COMMUNICATOR
If you understand your specific communicator type of Empathizer or Instigator communicator, you are already cruising down the two-way communicator highway, admirably avoiding many accidents and misunderstandings that bruise relationships. If you understand the negative perceptions or prejudices about your communicator type and how you are viewed unfavorably by your opposite type when you’re under stress, then you are a Star Communicator. If you use the strengths of both E- and I-type communicators, you are a Superstar Communicator.
YOU CHOOSE THE MOOD OF YOUR TALK
You choose to be positive or negative in your communication mood mode. Positive communicators talk in the language of their fellow talk traveler to hear and understand more deeply and completely, and then act more assertively when problems need to be solved…after the talking is done. Check out what a recent TALK2ME© mood management workshop group ciphered out….
NEGATIVE E-TYPES (-Empathizers)
Are indirect
Tend to be passive aggressive
Are draining
Stew
Hold onto grudges
Too apologetic when not at fault
Shut down talks when stinging from hurt
POSITIVE E-TYPES (+Empathizers)
Are laid back
Demonstrate sincere, non-verbal expressions of hearing you out
Listen completely before acting
Have a good memory of personal events
Come out looking good
Emanate warmth
Are good facilitators
Possess emotional radar
NEGATIVE I-TYPES (-Instigators)
Are self-righteous
Tend to be critical
Judge others
Are confrontational
Are sharp-tongued
Make excuses
Intimidate others
Are selfish
Are closed-minded
Continually stir the pot
POSITIVE I-TYPES (+Instigators)
Are comfortable thinking about meeting their own needs
Demonstrate confidence in their actions
Task oriented
Get the job done
Are self-assured
Don’t hold onto past grudges
Let it go–Be done with it
Don’t allow people to walk all over them
SUPERSTAR STRENGTHS
The vote was clear about the most admired strengths of positive Empathizer and positive Instigator communicators in this class….
MOST VALUABLE EMPATHIZER STRENGTH: LISTEN COMPLETELY BEFORE ACTING
MOST VALUABLE INSTIGATOR STRENGTH: LET IT GO–BE DONE WITH IT
ARE YOU A SUPERSTAR COMMUNICATOR?
You most certainly are…by using the strengths of both communicator worlds. It’s a cinch. First Problem Solving Rule: Listen completely before acting. Second Problem Solving Rule: Let it go–Be done with it.
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Dr. Dennis O’Grady is the developer of the TALK2ME communication system. Through thirty plus years as a clinical psychologist specializing in relationship communication along with extensive research, Doctor O’Grady identified two different styles of communicators–Empathizers and Instigators. He discovered that each communicator style has its own unique set of traits and viewpoints and created a teaching tool to provide the map for the two communicators styles to work and live together in understanding and harmony.